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Ep 6// Overcoming Fear WITH your kids! Lead Them in Victory Over This Stronghold, God’s Way!

Updated: Oct 11, 2021



FEAR...we ALL deal with it, even our children! This week as I watched my girls at swim lessons, I watched them overcome.


It is the most amazing feeling as a mother to watch your child feel the fear, face their fear, and do the HARD thing anyways...making progress towards their goals.


In this episode, I share some valuable reminders in dealing with the reality of fear and most importantly we talk about WHY it is so important that we learn to face and RISE ABOVE this negative emotion.


I have fought against fear my entire life and am learning a better way - God’s Way. A way to effortlessly let it go. Listen in to hear how we can walk in victory...leading with freedom in our lives.


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Full Episode Transcription:

0:15

Hey Mama before we jump in today, I just wanted to take a minute and remind you that we are celebrating the launch of this brand new podcast The Nourishing Mompreneur with cupcakes. But not just any cupcake, we are giving away batches, or four packs of The Nourishing Cupcake jar, so if you don't know what these are, girl, you got to go to NourishingMichelle.com, get the details on them. They are super healthy super delicious cupcakes-in-a-jar, you eat it with a spoon. It's an amazing experience and I want you to have some.


0:45

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1:06

And I just want to read a quick review today from (boyslgomez), the title is "#goalsformotherhood. She says, "Love how raw and real she is. If you want to hear a fellow mama who loves Jesus and has her feet grounded in the purpose, the Lord has for her, listen to her. Michelle has been my inspiration to be a mompreneur. I love that she makes the possibility of doing something else, or different in your motherhood actually doable, even with having a large family and homeschooling. What a blessing. Thank you for encouraging girl."


1:34

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2:01

Welcome back to the Nourishing Mompreneur Podcast where we get encouraged and empowered as we pursue our greatest potential within the walls of our home. Hey Mama, my name is Michelle Hiatt, and I'm so thankful you're here. Do you feel like your life is good but something in you feels unfulfilled? Do you feel stuck in the trenches of motherhood, exhausted, and working so hard, but feeling like you're getting nowhere? Do you have big dreams you're holding in your heart, but you've been living small? Are you motivated for more, but don't have the clarity or the courage to do anything about it? Do you want to discover God's best and see if it's really possible to be an excellent wife, an intentional mother, and be successful in business, all for the glory of God? As a wife of 16 years, a homeschooling mom of five, and an entrepreneur, I know exactly how you feel. Every bit of it. I truly believe that the most important work you will ever do is within the walls of your home and that there is purpose in every season. If you are a fellow business-minded mama, with a heart for home and a love for Jesus, let's process this journey and grow together.


3:04

Hey friends, today I want to talk to you about overcoming fear WITH your kids, you know fear is a loaded topic and I got triggered to want to talk about this week. It's just a huge, huge topic I was thinking about I'm like where do I even start where do I begin, there's, there's 1000s of books and 1000s of songs, there's tons and tons of Scripture about it there's just so much but really I'm like okay, I just want to share with you bite sized pieces of wisdom have inspired thoughts, ideas so that you can be an intentional mama in your life with your kids with your business with your marriage with all of those things, and so I'm just going to share with you the the piece that I've been learning and reminded of this week.


3:45

You know fear is something that I'll be honest, I struggled with my entire life, or you may look at me and think "Well, Michelle, you seem super confident, you're not a fearful person." I know I don't seem like that on the outside but no, absolutely not. We all go through fear and I have a bent towards fear I think that some of us have a bent towards fear some of us don't I'm not sure why but I always have I was that little girl that was just scared to death in her bed at night, I have memories of laying in bed. I was so scared, with my vain imagination seeing things and just just gripped with fear. I couldn't even get out of bed and go to my parents room like that how scared I was.


4:25

And over the course of my life I've had to face fear time and time again just like the rest of us. I remember one of my most significant times where I really had to just conquer fear was when I got pregnant with my first child, I was planning a natural childbirth, but I had never really experienced pain before you know you only perceive childbirth through the lens of the media and what people tell you and how scary it is but I wanted to have a natural childbirth, but I had never broken anything never had stitches never didn't know what my pain tolerance was like it was just all brand new. And, you know, having a baby is such a miracle, but it is a scary thing, no matter which way you go about it so me just wanting to specifically prepare for childbirth, put me on this path of really facing a lot of fear and diving into my faith in deep ways and a lot of the verses that I clung to my pregnancy with my son, are the verses that I continue to just go back to and repeat to myself to my children, time and time again so all that to say fear is a is a heavy hitter for me. It's something that, it's very near and dear to my heart, unfortunately, but let's talk about that for a minute because this is something that we're always going to have to face and guess what our kids have to face this too.


5:37

So this is something that we really need to talk about and what what kind of brought me to want to have this conversation is my two little girls started taking swim lessons this week. And my five year old, you know, she's been swimming for a while but always with puddle jumpers on and just, just so scared so scared to take them off, so scared to swim on her on. And so going up to swim lessons, she just kept telling me how scared she was and how nervous she was, and I mean she was just so gripped with fear and I'm telling you, her first day of swim lessons, she was literally shaking like trembling in fear that's how scared she was, but then the next day came and it was like a complete shift, she was like a new child she faced that fear and so quickly, she was able to overcome it and work through it, it wasn't that she wasn't still nervous, but every day gets better and better and I'm telling you, it was just incredible.


6:37

It is the best feeling as a mother to watch your child feel the fear to watch them face their fear, and to do the hard thing anyways and make progress towards their goal. It is the best thing in the world. But isn't that what we're supposed to be doing too. Isn't that the journey that we're on as well. So let's just talk about this together. A couple of things that I learned and notice just from like the first couple days of swim lessons I want to just share with you some of my observations and how it kind of connects to us and our life. So the first day, obviously, there was a crazy amount of nerves, like I told you she was shaking in fear. I mean, just terrified. I was so proud of her that she didn't just like have a fit and panic because she is my drama mama. If I ever have one.


7:24

But the reality is that feeling fear, feeling uncomfortable when we're doing something new when we're doing something different when we're growing in some way, it is normal, it is normal, it is part of the process. So it's just a reminder that it's okay, it's okay. On day two, she had that major attitude shift. And it was, it was crazy how quickly she turned I mean, the day one and day two results, and her experience with such a short time in the water was incredible. And it reminded me that we are you, we are so much closer to breakthrough, than we know. They say that you know the door to success and failure, live right next door to each other and it is so true, often it's like right when we're on the cusp of wanting to quit right there for that breakthrough, and she told me that day after a swim lesson she said, "Mom, I feel like I already know how to swim."


8:23

When you're ready to go to the next step. It's going to happen quickly and easily and it's going to happen. You just need to be preparing just keep preparing stay the course, just get ready, be in a state of ready and when it's time that breakthrough will come. You know those opportunities will find you that you're waiting for but just continue the course, and know that you're not that far. You're not that far. And you know, you know when it comes to motherhood, I just think about that phrase that so many times we hear in the sense of like hey let's just keep swimming insinuating like we're just drowning in life we're drowning in motherhood, and I just don't really like that because I don't think we're supposed to be drowning yes it's hard yes sometimes we go under, but let's be overcomers, I mean that's the point right let's grow and get better let's overcome. Let's learn new techniques, new strategies, let's learn to breathe better to swim better.


9:18

One thing that I noticed was, as we're moving forward, we have to remember how good it feels on the other side of fear. It's exhilarating. My daughter I cannot tell you how lit up, she was after her swim lesson she felt so good her competence was just sky high. It was a beautiful thing. Sometimes, that when we are moving towards something. Our goals are maybe not even on the right thing, maybe we should not focus on doing that thing but how we're going to feel after we do that thing, because we're emotional people right, and we're emotional beings so if we appeal and we address our emotions that's gonna go really far, but we can't live by how we feel. If we trust our instinct, we're always going to want to run to what feels safe and comfortable, and living small living safe living comfortable, it's not going to serve the world best, and it's not going to set our children up to serve the world to their fullest potential, either.


10:24

So focus on how you're going to feel on the other side of that fear how you're going to feel after you do that thing, maybe not even on that, that activity itself because it is a beautiful way to overcome and work through that. And like I mentioned my daughter just had so much confidence. It was such a beautiful thing to watch. And it was just a reminder that when you move into your fear, and you work through those things that feel hard that feels scary, it gives you confidence, and you have more confidence for next time.


10:54

But not only that you have confidence for other areas of life. My daughter told me after the first day of swim lesson she was like, I just loved everything that I learned today, and I just love to see her confidence, she was believing in herself to her swimming, it felt impossible. I mean come on. She's five years old she's watched her older sibling swim, she just kind of felt like "I can't do it, I just can't do it." But it was cool to see her show up to her life with courage and to see her belief system grow because she did it. She did that thing.


11:31

And when I watched from now my little girl, my three year old, she's been a little bit on the struggle bus with the swim lessons. She wants to fight it, she wants to scream she wants to kind of, you know just resist. But watching her it's again it's a reminder that fighting, fighting it makes things worse. Fighting the lesson that we're supposed to be learning makes the process hurt so much worse. When my daughter screaming and crying. It's a bad experience. She's sucking in water, she's choking, it just doesn't. It's just harder all the way around.


12:05

I mean think about labor, you know, when we give birth, so much is embracing that process, embracing those contractions because when we find it. When we let ourselves get gripped with fear during labor and delivery and we tense up. It makes it hurt so much worse. So, just understanding that hey this is n