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Ep 12// Making Progress Towards Your Goals in the Midst of Grief and Family Challenges!

Updated: Jan 27, 2022



✔️Distractions

✔️Interruptions

✔️Heartbreak

✔️Tragedy


These things are all part of life. They come in waves, ready or NOT!


But HOW do you keep pressing on in the midst of challenges, making progress towards your goals?


Our family has been going through some deep grief recently and when sadness strikes, it is perfectly OK to stop everything. Family comes FIRST!


However, it is also POSSIBLE to keep going, in the midst. 🙏🏼


💫 Just because you’re not “feeling it” doesn’t mean you can’t stay faithful.


💫 Just because your heart is heavy doesn’t mean your heart can’t be in it.


In this episode, I share some tips that have helped me get through and stay the course during some heavy weeks.


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Full Episode Transcription:

0:03

Hey Friends, today I want to talk about making progress towards your goals even in the midst of grief and family challenges. You know, distractions, interruptions, heartbreak, tragedy, these things are all part of life unfortunately, and they come in waves ready or not. But how do you keep pressing on in the midst of challenges making progress towards your goals even? Our family has been going through deep grief recently and when sadness strikes, it is perfectly okay to stop everything, to drop everything and just be still be present. Family always comes first. At the end of the day, you've got to do what is best for your family, for relationships and what is going to be most honoring in that situation and in that time. However, it is also possible to keep going even in the midst. In this episode I want to share some tips that have helped me personally get through and stay the course.


1:03

Welcome back to The Nourishing Mompreneur Podcast, where we get encouraged and empowered as we pursue our greatest potential within the walls of our home. Hey Mama, my name is Michelle Hiatt, and I'm so thankful you're here. Do you feel like your life is good, but something in you feels unfulfilled? Do you feel stuck in the trenches of motherhood, exhausted and working so hard, but feeling like you're getting nowhere? Do you have big dreams you hold in your heart, but you've been living small? Are you motivated for more, but don't have the clarity or the courage to do anything about it? Do you want to discover God's best and see if it's really possible to be an excellent wife, an intentional mother, and be successful in business, all for the glory of God? As a wife of 16 years, a homeschooling mom of five, and an entrepreneur, I know exactly how you feel. Every bit of it. I truly believe that the most important work you will ever do is within the walls of your home and that there is purpose in every season. If you are a fellow business-minded mama, with a heart for home and a love for Jesus, let's process this journey and grow together.


1:09

Hey friend, has this year distracted and derailed you from making progress towards your goals? I don't know about you, but this has been a crazy season for everybody and maybe you feel like it is just wave after wave coming. You're trying to just stay standing, let alone take steps forward. It just seems like every time you move in a direction there's always something holding you back, interrupting you, messing up your flow. If that's where you're at and you're just feeling frustrated, all the distractions, all the interruptions, this is for you.


1:39

I just want to talk a little bit about that and making progress towards your goals in the midst of interruptions in the midst of grief in the midst of family challenges. This has been a hard year for everybody. We are just I don't know, I don't even know if I can say this fingers crossed, maybe coming out of this COVID season, if you will. But all that to say in the last year there have been so many unexpected circumstances in our world that we've had to navigate. If you tend to be the queen of excuses this has been a time where you could probably proudly wear that crown. You know all the fear, the shutdowns, the quarantines, the mandates, they've affected everybody. No one has been exempt. We've all had to do things we never thought we do. We've had to navigate new waters, we've had to just pivot and adjust and adapt in ways that we did not see coming.


2:31

So many things were thrown our way that we weren't expecting and for me in 2020 I was all about pressing on despite COVID and all the chaos in our world. I'm a big believer and doing what you can do and I just felt like you know what, let's focus in. Let me rise up, let me press on, stay faithful, stay the course and that's exactly what I did. I got super focused and determined to rise up and do what I could do in the midst of it all. If you want to hear more about that go to Episode One. I talked all about that. If you're in a season of hustle if you have clarity, if you are laser focused towards your goals then check out Episode One, that is going to be an awesome interview there with some great content just to encourage you to keep going.


3:16

But what about when the unexpected circumstances hit close to home? How do you keep going when your family dynamic is rocked? It's one thing when chaos is in the world. You can shut off the news you can shut off social media. You can stay in your home and kind of hole up and put your nose to the grindstone and do what you got to do. But what about when you can't do that? What about when it actually comes in your home and it affects you with your family? You know the day that I officially launched this podcast was a really awesome day I went and launched it it was a big deal. It was kind of a long time coming. Had a big day. I was driving my son home from his jujitsu practice and I got a text on my phone. My heart kind of sank. One of our family members tested positive for COVID and I knew that it would be very serious while through a course of different events, 13 days later, my husband's dad, my dear precious father-in-law, my children's grandpa, the pillar of the Hiatt family died from health complications, sorry, I'm getting emotional here. You know most likely triggered from COVID, so it just kind of set a course of experiencing a really, really, deep, deep, loss in our family.


4:35

When things like this happen unforeseeable and heartbreaking circumstances, it's perfectly okay to stop everything to drop everything family should always come first. And in fact that's exactly what my husband did, he dropped everything. He stayed close to home he waited for what he could do and how he could help and eventually just went over to his parents house and stayed by their side honoring his father in the most beautiful way to the very end with his whole heart. It was a really, really precious time in the midst of deep grief.


5:10

I can't explain the heaviness of the grief that I felt just watching my husband go through what he was going through and really being helpless not being able to do anything about it. I think the hardest part was that our family couldn't be together during this time. What happened was because we just weren't sure it's such an interesting time. With COVID in the mix, we weren't sure if there was possible exposure. It was looking clean and clear. It was you know, possibly this that triggered other health conditions, there were a lot of underlying health conditions in this situation, but all that to say is we just weren't sure what was going on what was in the mix and we wanted to be super careful. My husband needed to be with his parents and honor them by their side every step of the way. There wasn't much that I can do and because we just didn't know of any possible exposure, I needed to stay home with the kids and keep us safe and continue honoring the commitments that we have as we finished out our school year with some major commitments, and in doing that honoring others. I wanted to make sure that we weren't going to in any way in any capacity spread anything.


6:19

So these are things that you just don't plan to have to think about and just weird territory you know, but anyways, my husband was there honoring his father being where he needed to be and I was home. Just taking it day by day you know these situations, you don't prepare for them and you have to just do what's right. In our situation, we would just look at it at every day. Is this the right situation? Should we change things up, willing to stop everything, shut everything down at any minute but at the same time, being also faithful to press on as long as that made sense. So I was home honoring our commitments. We were getting our jujitsu belt, we were fulfilling the commitment to a big band competition a national band competition competition that my son had been practicing for for months and months and months. We were finishing our homeschool Co-Op and the showcase and just finishing up all these commitments and taking care of the household. I was flying solo, keeping things going, honoring my my commitments honoring those that I would be in contact with but because of the situation I was away from my husband, it was really hard to go through deep grief and such a devastating time and not be able to go through it together to hug, to cry together. It's very hard, very hard. But even though all that was going on, even though we were just taking it day by day, I was able to continue. I was able to press on. I was able to stand by my grieving husband, walk my kids through the loss of their grandpa, keep the household going and fulfill my children's commitments even in the midst while continuing towards my goals. And my goals, I mean just staying faithful really with this podcast showing up here as my best I had just launched it and I wanted to be committed I wanted to be committed to you guys. I wanted to stay consistent with this. This was something new and you know you do these things and you move forward and you don't know that hard times are right around the corner, but I was able to press on and I just want to share with you some tips of how you can press on too in the midst of hard things, some things that really helped me during the last few weeks as we've been going through grief and continuing to move ahead, move towards the goals, stay intentional in our lives, even with big interruptions.


8:35

So here's the truth, just because you're not feeling it doesn't mean you can't stay faithful. Just because your heart is heavy, doesn't mean your heart can't be in it. One of the things that helped me is planning ahead and being intentional and focusing in on those habits. You really can't, you don't know when hard things are going to come but you have to be ready before the unexpected happen. There's always going to be something so you've got to get ready now. Have a plan if you don't have a routine or rhythm, focus on those daily habits and really nail that down and get comfortable with your your life groove if you will, because when life throws you a curveball, you want to be ready for it. That way you can continue. I think it's important to always start as you intend to go and even as you pivot and adjust and adapt, you'll be able to press on.


9:30

Ultimately you've got to trust God's timing and always hold on to your plans loosely if you go to Episode Four, I talked about the timing and how God's timing is so perfect and I'm telling you, I didn't know that we were going to have a very significant death in the family when I launched the podcast. I didn't know this, but if you go to Episode Four and you'll see how God weaved and orchestrated all the details of the timing when I was able to launch this podcast, you'll see how good He is because if I hadn't done it, then I don't know that I would be able to even continue now. I don't think I would have the courage, the confidence, I probably would just feel selfish in doing it in moving forward considering the circumstances and what our family is going through. At the same time, we just want to trust God's timing, but we've got to be willing to let it all drop if that's the best decision. There's not a right or wrong in these situations. Like I said, sometimes you can press on and sometimes it's the right decision to stop everything to drop everything and just be still and be there. It's okay either way, but if you feel like you can press on these things that are going to help you seek God and trust the Holy Spirit and these things. Let peace be an indicator that you're on track.


10:43

One thing that I've been really aware of the last few weeks is anytime I've gotten overwhelmed and just gripped with anxiousness, it's because I'm not doing the right thing. It's because I'm not doing that thing in the right time. God speaks to us through our peace. And I'll talk more about that in a second.


11:00

Okay, number two, try to be helpful. It is a really, really valuable thing. In these situations. Of course, we always want to serve our family. We always want to honor I think honor has been a really key word on our hearts in our family, something th