Hey Mama, today I want to share with you a crazy SIMPLE “mom hack” for cultivating a peaceful morning and buying you some more “me time.”
The best news is that it does NOT involve waking up earlier...although that’s helpful too;)
So if you’re days feel like they start off like “run-away train” far too often and the NEEDINESS is overwhelming before you’ve had your first sip of Joe... then let’s strategize a simple habit that will help you start off the day with intention and a little bit more sanity. Most importantly, this can set both YOU and your kids up for happy attitudes and SUCCESS!
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Welcome back to the Nourishing Mompreneur Podcast where we get encouraged and empowered as we pursue our greatest potential within the walls of our home. Hey Mama, my name is Michelle Hiatt, and I'm so thankful you're here. Do you feel like your life is good but something and you feel unfulfilled. Do you feel stuck in the trenches of motherhood, exhausted and working so hard but feeling like you're getting nowhere? Do you have big dreams, you're holding your heart, but you've been living small? Are you motivated for more, but don't have the clarity or the courage to do anything about it? Do you want to discover God's best and see if it's really possible to be an excellent wife, an intentional mother, and be successful in business, all for the glory of God? As a wife of 16 years, a homeschooling mom of five and an entrepreneur, I know exactly how you feel. Every bit of it. I truly believe that the most important work you will ever do is within the walls of your home, and that there is purpose in every season. If you are a fellow business-minded mama, with a heart for home and a love for Jesus, let's process this journey and grow together.
Hey Mama, welcome to today's show where I want to share with you a crazy simple mom hack for cultivating a peaceful morning. I don't know about you, I don't know if you're a morning person, or if you feel like a train wreck in the morning, but this is going to be helpful. So if you're a morning person, and you already wake up in the morning you feel refreshed, you're ready to go you start early. Good for you. That's amazing. I love it. This is just going to buy you a little bit more me time, hopefully, if you are not a morning person, I probably feel you like a big, a big feel you! This is really going to help you a lot.
Now, I know one of the things as mom's, gosh it's so hard, it's so hard to get control of the mornings, there's always a million excuses why your best intentions for having that golden morning hour just can't happen. There's always something that wants to, to mess that up but the worst feeling in the world is when you wake up in the morning and you know the kids burst and the day just get started in the neediness just starts, and never stops and it just feels like a runaway train that's like not a good feeling.
It feels good to get up, to set yourself up for success, to just feel like you have peace and order as you begin your day and you work hard at all the things that the Lord has called you to. I know that as moms I think one of the challenges is that we don't get enough sleep, so I know for me, that's always been a hard thing, especially when they're little and you're getting interrupted at night or and they're in the newborn stage, that can get really tricky so always trying to get a good night's sleep helps with the morning time, but either way. I mean, how do we do this, how do you take advantage of that precious morning time, especially when you have a lot of things to do when you're working in business, you're getting set up to teach the kids to train them to homeschool or whatever your day looks like to start your day with intention and be productive, but you're also in the trenches of motherhood, and how does that work? Well let's talk about that really quick and I'm just gonna give you one thing that has worked for me over the years and that's been tried and proven. One last thing I want to mention, because this is why it's so important I will tell you on my self development journey. Over the last three years I've listened to a lot of different people on YouTube I think that you can learn from everybody I think that you should filter everything through the Holy Spirit so take the things that resonate and just spit out the sticks if you will. But one of the things that is for sure a common thread and a common denominator with everyone that successful no matter what their business no matter what their industry, no matter what their walk of life, is they do almost always get up before the light, before the crack of dawn they get up early, they have really strong morning habits, and so I know that is just kind of a success principle. So how do we implement that into our home, when we got little ones, all over the place.
One of the things that I would say the one thing. Okay, first of all I want to tell you what most people will say most people will say get up early, before your kids and I know that that's true. Getting up before your kids is a great idea, I highly recommend that but that doesn't always work, if the idea of setting your alarm clock at 5am in the morning, doesn't appeal to you, why don't you try this? How about you don't make breakfast? That's right.
What if you teach your kids to make their own breakfast? We know that kids, for whatever reason, the moment they open their eyes, they are starving, like I don't understand it I don't know why, like within 10 seconds of waking up, they are just like so, having to eat but that's just how kids are you, you know how that as you know that one of their most important first basic needs, is going to be breakfast so what have you set them up to make their own breakfast that way they could be happy, and you could have some more time. That's what I would recommend. One of the ways, I'll just tell you really quick how I do it. So my oldest is 13, my youngest is three and I will tell you I don't know where I learned this from or when I started doing this, but as long as I can remember, I've always set my kids up to be very independent in the morning I think that just helps me as a mom, it's something that I need, and it's just worked really well to create peace in our home, so I always have one of my older ones, make sure the younger ones get fed, I have another one that's in charge of cleaning up breakfast, I have another one that's in charge of making sure the little ones are dressed and ready to go.
I really tried to have the mornings run like a smooth operating machine where they wake up and I don't like setting alarms. I mean for me, I homeschool, so that's the blessing of that they can wake up on their own naturally, but when they wake up they know exactly what to do they know their morning chores, they know how to get ready and what to do, and really, when to be ready, they watch the clock, they can tell time they all have watches they know when to be ready so that we can kind of get our day started and just have a good sense of intention as we start the day. Starting with breakfast is one of the most important things. I know you'll be like well, Michelle, you have older kids, that's easy. Yeah, it is easy, it is a blessing to have, you know, kids that can help other ones, the older ones to help with the little ones and we just always work together as a team, but even if yours are all little, you can still do this. What if you put their, you know, juice cup or their cup of milk, or whatever you have in the fridge so they could just open it and grab it in the morning? What if you got their water cups ready and on the table and had a basket of fruit, where they could get up and go sit at the table drink their water, eat a piece of fruit, and then after that they could go and sit in a certain space and grab a book and read the book until mommy is ready or until mommy comes out?
You can certainly be creative, whatever your kids personalities whatever their needs are. I am confident that where there's a will there's a way, and if you want to figure it out you can do it! Figure out what your kids most basic needs are, and it's usually breakfast first thing like I said the second they wake up, they're starving they got to eat, help them get breakfast independently, it's only going to be good for them it's going to create more confidence in them, and it's going to set you up for success during the day set them up for success, teach them, train them what to do how to do it, give them the grace and in that process, and then it'll set you up for success during the day.
You know, after all, we are the managers of our home and we first have to manage ourselves, time management starts with managing us, and you can set your expectations for the day and stick with it. My kids, they kind of know like mama is just simply not available until I come out of my room, you know, now they I'm home with them, they know that I'm always there if they need me if there's an emergency like I'm always a knock away I'm always there but they also know that they need to respect my time and so once I'm out of the bedroom, I'm fair game. Like, come at me and let me know what you need. I'm here for you, but if I'm in my room, like they know that I'm not available so set the expectations that you have, and you know it's gonna look different for everybody, for every personality and for every home. There is not a right or wrong, but you need to know what your needs are so that you can nurture them, without the guilt. So, I want you to know that you are not a bad mom if you do not make your kids a grand at breakfast in the morning, trust me. It is okay if you can set them up for success, teach them to be more independent, it'll only instill confidence in them, they'll be happy because they won't have hunger and frustration, and you'll have more time in the morning for you, and to do the things that are going to get your day started productive with intention and most importantly, with peace.
You know this is a crazy world that we live in there is chaos, and just confusion and bad news, it seems like all around, and when 2020 came, one of the things that I said, all the time and really kept at the forefront of my mind was the phrase, "protect your peace." That is something we have to actively do we have to cut out the noise and protect our piece, and the morning time, the things that we think the things that we consume the things that we hear that is like super super influential in our attitude and our energy for the day. So protect your peace and teach your kids to make breakfast that's my thing. Just know it's not selfish, it's wise, and you need the time in the morning to fill up your cup and I'm not just talking the coffee cup, do the coffee, but your mental, your emotional, and your spiritual cup so that you can pour into your beautiful children, for the rest of the day.
Let me just pray for you really quick before I go, Father God, I just thank you so much for the mom on the other end of this device, listening, Lord I pray that you would bless her today, Lord, I ask that you just give her wisdom in her home as she manages her house and she stewards her children well and she stewards her business and every responsibility that she has Lord lead her in every step of the way teach her how to have a peaceful morning, teach her what works best in her family, Lord, just give her the wisdom and the insight for every decision that she makes Lord I pray that you would have a fresh anointing on her today, and that you would bless her with confidence, Lord bless her with everything that she needs to just honor you with the work of her hands, and all that she does. Lord, we just give the say to you, in Jesus name I pray. Amen.